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Editorial
By Brian Davidson
Sibling Rivalry Rooted in Jealous Competition
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that would be gloomy without
your product and then show
thcim how much better your’
product will enhance their lives.
Once this has been accom-
plished you must ensure repeat
sales. Sure it is nice to sell your
product once to millions of
people but the goal is to be able
to sell to them year after year.
You have to make your client
base anticipate being able to use
your product again in the near
future. You want them to auto-
matically think about it, and run
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be
so
pry the bulldog’s grip loose, and
by then the Scottie was almost
dead. He spent two weeks in
the hospital and Pspent two
weeks in “the doghouse.” I re-
gret throwing that ball to this
day.
1 have thought about that ex-
perience many times, and be-
gun to recognize its application
to human relationships. Indeed,
it is a very simple thing to pre-
cipitate a fight between people.
All that is necessary is to toss a
ball, symbolically, under the
more aggressive of the two and
prepare for the battle that en-
sues. This is done by repeating
negative comments one has
made, or by baiting one in the
presence of the other. It can be
accomplished in business by
assigning overlapping territory
to two managers. They will tear
each other to pieces in the in-
evitable rivalry. Alas, it happens
every day.
This principle is also appli-
cable to siblings. It is remark-
ably easy to make them mortal
enemies. All a parent must do
is toss a ball in the wrong di-
rection. Their natural antago-
nism will do the rest.
LONESTAR BBQ-OC T. 23
Sanctioned by Lonestar BBQ
Society there will be a ribs,
chicken, brisket & beans
cookoff. Check-in time is 5:00
on Friday. Judging will be Sat-
urday, October 23. To enter call
Staci Robertson-773-2705,work
or 773-5450, home.
QUESTION: Why do my kids
have to fight all the time? I
have three of them and they
drive me crazy. Why can't they
be nice to each other?
DR. DOBSON: Good ques-
tion! All I can tell you is that
sibling rivalry has been going on
for a long time. It was respon-
sible for the first murder on
record (when Cain killed Abel),
and has been represented in vir-
tually every two-child family
from that time to this. The un-
derlying source of this conflict
is old-fashioned jealousy and
competition between children.
Marguerite and Willard Beecher,
writing in their book “Parents
on the Run” ($10, DeVorss),
expressed the inevitability of
this struggle as follows: “It was
once believed that if parents
would explain to a child that he
was having a little brother or
sister, he would not resent it.
He was told that his parents had
enjoyed him so much that they
wanted to increase their happi-
ness. This was supposed to
avoid jealous competition and
rivalry. It did not work. Why
should it? Needless to say, if a
man tells his wife he has loved
her so much that he now plans
to bring another wife into the
home to ’increase his happi-
ness,' she would not be immune
to jealousy. On the contrary, the
fight would just begin — in ex-
actly the same fashion as it docs
with children.”
QUESTION: If jealousy be-
tween kids is so common, then
how can parents minimize the
natural antagonism that chil-
dren feel for their siblings ?
DR. DOBSON: It’s helpful to
avoid circumstances that com-
pare them unfavorably with
each other. They are extremely
sensitive to the competitive edge
ROTARY SUPPER-OCT 29
Rotary Club supper will be OCt.
29 before the Anson football
game. 5:00-7:00 at the U.S. caf-
eteria.
EARLY PEP RAI .1WKT. 22
The Pep Rally will begin at 2:40
p.m. on Friday, October 22nd.
OG MUSICAL-OCT.23
Old Glory Musical willbe Sat-
urday, October 23 at the OG
Community Center. Conces-
sion starts (a> 5 PM and Music-
starts (at 6 PM.
These bicyclers took time to pose for the camera before taking
off for their last bicycle ride this year. They are: Mitch Locke,
freshman, Felica Garcia, senior, Lauren McLemore, sophomore
and Crystal Alvarado, freshman.
BAND BOOSTER MEETING-
OCTOBER26
Stamford Band Booster meet-
ing will be held on Tuesday,
October 26 at 6:30 p.m. at the
Band Hall
INSTALLATION SERVICE-
OCT. 31
For Pastor Pete Weist-4:00 pin
(a; Bethel Lutheran Parish.
10625 N FM 600, Avoca, Sun-
day. October 31 st.
improved traffic safety because
it combats fatigue.
State revenue situation
improves...The comptroller's
office says the state's general
revenue grew by 6.4 percent in
fiscal 2004, the highest increase
in three years. In dollars, last
fiscal year’s revenue growth
amounted to SI X billion. One
blemish on the picture has been
job growth, which is still down
by comparison to more recent
flush tunes. And the money be-
ing paid for new jobs also is still
made available.
The shortage of the flu shot
this year has thrown people into
a panic. The reality of it is that
if you are a healthy individual
between the ages of two and
65 you don’t need the flu shot.
This revelation may be so
shocking that you may think I
am making this up. Go to the
Center of Disease Control
website and you will find that
what I have just said is true.
There are exceptions of course
but if you are Joe Average then
you don’t even need it accord-
ing to their information.
The “flu shot” is an inactivated
vaccine (containing killed virus)
that is given with a needle. The
flu shot is approved for use in
people older than six months,
including healthy people and
people with chronic medical
conditions. About 55 million flu
shots will be available in the
United States this season. The
side effects from the flu shot
are fever and aches.
For healthy individuals ages
five to 49 years of age who are
not pregnant can take a nasal-
spray flu vaccine. This is a vac-
cine made with live, weakened
flu viruses that do not cause the
flu (sometimes called LAI V for
“Live Attenuated Influenza Vac-
cine”). The side effects for the
LAIV in children are runny
nose, headache, vomiting,
muscle aches, fever. In adults,'
side effects can include runny
nose, headache, sore throat and
cough. I don’t know about you
but that sounds a lot like the flu
to me. Don’t get me wrong 1
know that this is to give the
body a mild exposure so that it
builds up antibodies to fight off
the flu but the side effects don’t
sound so great to me.
I also understand that the flu
shot has been marketed as a
broad spectrum preventative
tool but aren’t there also other
everyday things that we can do
to prevent spreading the flu, like
avoiding close contact with
people who are sick, staying
home if you are sick and cov-
ering your mouth and nose
when coughing or sneezing.
Washing your hands often is
probably the best way to pre-
vent spreading germs. The
CDC also suggests that you can
prevent spreading germs by
avoiding touching your eyes,
nose or mouth.
I am not anti flu shot. If you
are in the high risk for serious
flu complications you need to
get one. My point is that there
is no need for all of this anxiety
over there being a shortage of
flu shots. Most of us don’t ac-
tually need it. I just think that
the pharmaceutical companies
are selling a product to a large
cross section of the nation and
it is being marketed by fear.
People panic when they can’t
get something that they think
that they have to have. It has
been instilled in people that in
the fall you must get the flu
shot. If just the people that
needed the flu shot got the flu
shot I doubt that there would
be much of a shortage at all.
of their relationship. The ques-
tion is not, “How am I doing?”
it is, “How am I doing com-
pared with John, Steven or
Marion?” The issue is not how
fast can I run, but who crosses
the finish line first. A boy does
not care how tall he is; he is
vitally interested in “who is tall-
est.” Each child systematically
measures himself against his
peers and is tremendously sen-
sitive to failure within his own
family. Accordingly, parents
should guard against compara-
tive statements that routinely
favor one child over another.
‘"Perhaps an illustration will help
make the case. When I was
about 10 years old, I loved to
play with a couple of dogs that
belonged to two families in the
neighborhood. One was a black
Scottie who liked to chase and
retrieve tennis balls. The other
was a pug bulldog, who had a
notoriously bad attitude. One
day as I was tossing the ball
for the Scottie, it occurred to
me that it might be interesting
to throw it in the direction of
the old grouch. It was not a
smart move, The ball rolled
under the bulldog who grabbed
the Scottie by the throat when
he tried to retrieve it. It was an
awful scene. Neighbors came
running as the Scottie
screamed in pain. It took 10
minutes and a garden hose to
By Mike Cox
AUSTIN - With more than
30,000 military veterans living
within 75 miles, Abilene has
been selected as the location for
the third Texas State Veterans
Cemetery. Eight other medium-
sized metropolitan areas inter-
ested in having the cemetery -
Amarillo, Corpus Christi,
Longview, Lubbock, Midland-
Odessa, San Angelo, Texarkana
and Tyler also submitted appli-
cations to the Texas Veterans
Land Board and Texas Veterans
Commission.
Though Abilene will be the
location, funding to develop the
cemetery still needs to come
from the U.S. Department of
Veterans Affairs. Land Com-
missioner Jerry Patterson, who
chairs the Veterans Land Board,
said the Abilene cemetery could
be in operation by early 2008 if
federal funding is approved
next year. Texas voters ap-
proved a constitutional amend-
ment in 2001 authorizing seven
state veteran cemeteries. The
first of the cemeteries currently
is being developed at Killeen,
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Editor reserves the right to edit letters
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form to available space, good taste and
grammatical cortectncss
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nothing to write home about.
Dry white or sweet red? Not
every issue facing theTegisla-
ture has to do with protecting
or educating children. Commit-
tees are continuing to hear tes-
timony on a variety of issues,
including Texas’ wine industry
I he Senate Committee on In- '
tergovemmental Relations lis-
tened to winemakers, wine dis-
tributors, various associations
and researchers at a hearing on
Oct. 6 When they got to the
bottom of the bottle, so to
speak, the message w as as clear
as champagne: I he Texas wine
industry' is robust, but could use
some help from lawmakers in
the area of permits, distribution
and promotion
Odes to toads...Hoping to
The sales pitch is an artfarm.
Certain things must take place
during the sales transaction for
the client to buy it. Credibility
and trust are very important el-
ements in a sales transaction.
No one will buy something
from someone if they don’t
think that the individual is tell-
ing them the truth. We work
hard for our money and want
to make sure that we get ex-
actly what we pay for. Another
very important part of a sales
transaction is creating a sense
of urgency. You have to make ’ out and buy it as soon as it is
your client believe that they
must act in order to attain the
product. They must believe that
there is a limited number avail-
able and that they need to be
one of the few that can get in
on the good deal. Your client
must have the feeling that he
can’t do without this product.
These are a few fundamentals
of sales that you may already
be aware of.
Sometimes this is done bn
such a large scale that we don’t
even realize that we are being
sold. When an entire nation is
told that they need something
enough times by a credible
source they will automatically
sign up. Pharmaceutical com-
panies know this and try to cre-
ate products that everyone
needs to capitalize on it.
The big money is in creating
the illusion of a necessity in
people’s minds and developing
a product that will aleviate the
problem. You don’t want to ex-
clude anyone from being a po-
tential customer. You must cre-
ate a product that could poten-
tially be needed by the whole
country. Once this notion has
been put in place you must
make your potential clients
want it. So, you paint a picture
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with the second in the planning
stages at Mission
Wi-Fi update...The Texas
Department of Transportation
expects that seven of its safety
rest areas across the state will
have free Internet connectivity
within 100 days. TxDOT has
entered into an agreement with
a private company to provide
120 free minutes of w ireless or
traditional Internet 'access at
102 safety rest areas and travel
information centers within a
year Anyone needing more net
time than that can subscribe to
the service. According to
TxDOT, the idea behind the
program is to provide another
reason for motorists to get off
the road. A break to check e-
inail or the weather forecast for
down the road translates into raise awareness of an endan-
gered species, the Texas Parks
and Wildlife Department is look-
ing for essays on homed toads
from school kids. Officially
known as the Texas Horned
Lizard, the once common crit-
ter is the official state reptile
TPWD will award prizes to stu-
dents and classrooms for es-
says and research projects deal-
ing with horned toads Dead-
line for submissions is Jan 15.
For more information, check
the agency's Web site at
www.tpwd.state.tx.us.
Ptablliher........Becky Alambar
Editor...................Brian Davidson
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