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J-TAC
February 12,1998
Texan Features
Page 3
"Blue Eyes" gives Valentine advice
for the romantically challenged
By Christine Tatum
College Press Service
Say what you will about Frank
Sinatra, but one thing is indis-
putable: he knows how to pick up
chicks.
His list of conquests is as long
and star-studded as Mir's journey
through outer space — Lauren
Bacall, Angie Dickinson, Ava
Gardner (his second wife) and Mia
Farrow (wife number three) — to
name a few. Marlene Dietrich once
called him "the Mercedes-Benz of
men," and Dean Martin swore that
when Sinatra dies "they're giving
his zipper to the Smithsonian."
Golly, and many guys nowa-
days have trouble even asking
someone out on a date.
When they do, Chad Brooks, a
senior journalism major at Indiana
University, said it usually goes
something like this:
"Hey, Baby. How 'bout you and
me grabbing a six pack and head-
ing back to the house so you can
watch me play Sega?
"I don't do that," Brooks said.
"I'm in the first group of guys. The
ones who are nervous and shy
because they're afraid of rejec-
tion."
Is this what the art of wooing
women — a talent Sinatra defined
and refined — has come to?
With Valentine's Day just
around the corner, say it ain't so,
said Bill Zehme, author of a book
about Sinatra titled 'The Way You
Wear Your Hat."
Sensing that men are lost these
days and in need of some help
when it comes to the whole dating
scene, Zehme published a list of
Sinatra's secrets with help from
Old Blue Eyes himself.
In his day, Sinatra, now 82, got
the girls because no one could
match his style, charisma and con-
fidence, Zehme said.
He had standing tables in the
finest reitadnuitsf artitirid town;
"Go to one bar all the time, and
make friends there," Zehme advis-
es college students dating on a
shoestring budget.
"Eventually, you'll get in any-
time you want."
He dressed for every occasion.
"Lint was his mortal enemy,"
Zehme added.
"And he made it a point to look
nicer than everyone else." He was-
n't showy.
"That's trying too hard," Zehme
said. And he paid attention to the
tiniest of details.
"Sinatra's number one rule was
always 'Be aware'," Zehme said.
"If a woman spilled her purse or
dropped a napkin, he helped her
pick it up. If she entered a room or
approached his table, he stood up."
"He did a lot of learning for
us," Zehme said. "And he made a
lot of mistakes, then he made them
over again before trying something
different."
They're tough questions, but
Sinatra's answers are the basis for
a strategy that has made the hearts
of babes, broads and dames every-
where go ring-a-ding-ding: What
is the most important thing to look
for in a woman?
"A sense of humor. When look-
ing for a woman, it always helps to
find a woman who is also looking.
Make her feel appreciated, make
her feel beautiful.
"If you practice long enough,
you'll know when you get it. And,
by the way, look, but don't touch.
You can't get into trouble window-
shopping."
What should a man never do in
the presence of a woman?
"Yawn."
How should a man show a
woman respect?
"I may sound old-fashioned, but
I want to think all women should
be treated like I want my wife,
daughters and granddaughters to
be treated. I notice today that
good manners — like standing up
when a woman enters the room,
helping a woman on with her coat,
letting her enter an elevator first,
taking her arm across the street —
are sometimes considered unneces-
sary or a throwback. These are
habits-1" eould never break; nor ' L" -
would I want to. I realize today a
lot more women are taking care of
themselves than in the past. But no
woman is offended by politeness."
How do you get over a broken
heart?
"You don't. I think being jilted
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is one of life's most painful experi-
ences. It takes a long time to heal a
broken heart. It's happened to all
of us and never gets any easier. I
understand, however, that playing
one of my albums can help."
What do you do when a woman
cries?
"I usually cry with her."
What is the most dependable
cure for a hangover?
"Don't drink to begin with."
What, you wonder, does this
have to do with wooing women?
"Sinatra was always in control,"
Zehme said. "Drinking played a
huge part in his life, but he thought
it was about having fun and not
overdoing it. He used one trick a
lot: he'd order a drink, take a sip
or two and put it down. Then he
would walk across the room and
order another drink and do the
same thing over again.
"It always appeared that he was
keeping up with everybody when
he actually wasn't. He was always
the one who could still tell witty
stories into the wee hours, and he
was always the one still standing at
the very end when it came time to
walk a woman home," Zehme con-
tinued.
"You always should be the guy
who gets to walk the girl home."
Great advice, but will it work in
1998? Some perhaps, but certainly
not all, said Cheryl Lavin, who
writes "Tales From the Front," a
column about dating and relation-
ships.
"Opening doors for women and
helping them with their coats is
nice, but if I had ever seen him
dropping drinks all over the place,
I would have thought he was a big
jerk and a phony," she said.
"Anyone who is that concerned
about giving the wrong image is
not appealing to me. And I ques-
tion the confidence of anybody
who has to plan out every little
detail of their life like that.
•* ^JiIt's finer if ail-that appeal
comes natiirally, but if it's manu-
factured, that's not good at all."
Ouch.
"Nobody can please every-
body," Zehme said.
"Sinatra's number two rule was
always 'Don't despair.'"
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(58 percent). Men showed an
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lose weight. Others severely
restrict their diet or compulsively
exercise to lose weight. The
underlying philosophy is
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ances. When you think about
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2) Cultivate the ability to
appreciate your body, especially
how it functions. Think about
what your body accomplishes
every day. Concentrate on feeling
good. Focus on being healthy, not
losing weight.
3) Engage in behaviors that
make you feel good about your-
self. Exercise and buy clothes
that enhance your appearance. Do
things that you take pride in and
value.
4) Reduce exposure to negative
media images. Stop reading fash-
ion magazines. Be wary of those
Baywatch-like shows. The actors
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money to spend on personal train-
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5) Exercise for strength, health
and fitness, not just weight loss.
6) Seek out others who respect
your body. Avoid being around
people who base their lives on
their weight and make judgements
about others' appearance.
7) Get out of abusive relation-
ships. Having your boyfriend-or
girlfriend say things like, "yoii
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and set limits.
8) Identify and change negative
thoughts about your body. Saying
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hips are too big and you're not
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your self-esteem. Stop and
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goal is to be healthy and feel
good." When you look in the mir-
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cringe.
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