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NEWS
THE RICE THRESHER FRIDAY, MARCH 20, 1992 9
Hayes lectures on relationships
by Kevin Mistry
Approximately 300 people at-
tended Dan Hayes' lecture on "Why
Couples Break Up" March 17 in
Hamman Hall. The lecture was spon-
sored by the Campus Crusade for
Christ (CCC).
Hayes, himself a member of CCC
for 23 years, began his lecture by
describing his experience as an un-
dergraduate at Northwestern Uni-
versity and briefly discussing how he
got involved with the CCC. He then
shared perspectives from students
around the country on why couples
break up and gave what he sees as
the five underlying reasons why
couples break up. He concluded with
advice to couples on how to stay to-
gether.
Hayes said his conversations with
college students indicate that 35 per-
cent of couples break up due to a lack
of communication, 20 percent split
up because they are incompatible,
ten percent because of sexual differ-
ences, and others because they were
simply bored of each other. He also
cited several more unusual responses
he has heard, ranging from "con-
flicting Karma" to "lack of really
awesome sex," or "too much really
awesome sex."
Hayes offered more general rea-
sons why couples break up. First, he
remarked on the social and struc-
tural changes that our society has
undergone in the past eighty years.
He cited a less practical, but more
social view of marriage, the effect of
greater mobility on long distance
relationships, a more career oriented
family, and the increased role of
sexuality as reasons why relation-
ships are more stressful and inclined
to fail today.
To overcome these changes,
Hayes suggested taking one's time
with relationships. "Relationships
can't be built quickly," he said. "There
is no such thing as short, quality
time. We have to slow down the pace."
Hayes explained that many rela-
tionships fail because of the decep-
tive idea of a 50-50 partnership.
"Meeting half-way can only work
when people don't care enough about
their problems...that ends very
quickly in a serious relationship," he
said. "The commitment must be 100%
on both sides. Too many people marry
someone they can live with, not
someone they can't live without"
Hayes also cited the self-serving,
defiant aspects of human nature. Too
often, he said, couples split apart be-
Notes
The 1991-1992 Rice Program Council held its final meeting on
Sunday evening March 15 in the Brown College PDR. The following
items were discussed:
The RPC/Chib Sports Raffle will continue to sell tickets through
the end of Beer Bike tomorrow. The tickets are $3 for one or $5 for
two. A lot of great prizes, including haircuts, plane tickets, free
dinners at local restaurants, and theater passes, will be awarded so
help out your Club Sports and buy a few tickets.
Beer-Bike will be tomorrow at the bike track All the colleges need
to be lined up in parade order and ready to go by 11 a.m. Programs
will be distributed Friday afternoon. This event costs over $20,000, so
please enjoy it
Rondelet will be tomorrow night from 10 p.m. until 2 am at the
Houston Club in downtown Houston. Please plan to attend. A live
swing band will be on hand as well as a disk jockey spinning our
favorite tunes. Tickets will be $30 per couple at the door, contact your
RPC representative to purchase tickets in advance for only $25.
Enjoy the dance and thanks to all those who have lent their time and
support to the event
The Hunt requested $2Q0 and their petition was unanimously ap-
proved by the council.
The next meeting will be the first of the 1992-93 Rice Program
Council Thanks to everyone who helped and attended all the RPC
events this year. A special "congratulations" goes out to the only
graduating member of the 1991-92 RPC: cool Baker senior Kate
McPartlin—we wish you the best! Have fun at Beer Bike and
Rondelet tomorrow!
—compiled by Jonathan Briggs
Dan Hayes maps out the pitfalls of modem romance at a lecture March 17.
cause they have certain expectations
that the other partner cannot meet
He continued, "We have something
within us that doesn't want to be
messed with. When it is, we simply
cannot compromise."
Another factor Hayes mentioned
was the inability of some couples to
overcome what he called "the inevi-
table trials and difficulties in life."
He suggested that while all in the
audience knew that life would have
its hardships,very few couplesdealt
with these hardships constructively.
Hayes remarked, "When these
things happen, they're more likely
to crack relationships apart than
push people together."
Finally, Hayes pointed to a fan-
tasy vision of love that pervades our
society. According to Hayes, Ameri-
cans are often too concerned with
"how I look next to you and how you
look next to me." He also criticized
society's obsession with sex and sex
appeal. Hayes felt couples "should
focus on and strive for a more un-
conditional love, such as that de-
scribed by the Greek term agape.
Hayes' presentation ended with
comment cards being passed to the
audience and announcements of up-
coming activities for CCC. The next
45 RPM will be held April 1 in Herring
Hall 124 at 9 p.m. All are invited to
attend. In addition, CCC meetings are
on Friday evenings in Sewall 301 at 7
p.m.
Erratum
The March 13 article, "Officials confused by fee increase; uncertainty
clouds Pub's fate," stated the Pub pays $100 per month for custodial
services.' The actual charge is $1000 per month.
PC moves student out, professor in
by Mark David Schoenhals
and Henry Wiltshire Mahncke
"Insensitive punk" or "victim of
campus 'political correctness'" Tim
Usher was thrown out of Occidental
College for calling a female student a
"cunt" A student peer review board at
the small liberal arts school in Los
Angeles "found Usher guilty of Ver-
bal abuse' and attempting to destroy
or vandalize college property." The
review board said that Usher "sexu-
ally assaulted" the young woman
through his words.
Usher, a junior whose father was
the general manager ofthe 1984 Sum-
mer Olympic Games, knocked on a
locked door at a residence hall late
one night He hoped someone would
walk through the lobby and let him in.
Campus policy prevents visitors
THE HEDGES
Record number of fellowships won
A record-breaking number of Rice seniors were awarded National Science Foundation Fellow-
ships this year, the "premier fellowship of science and engineering," according to Dean of Graduate
Studies Graham Glass who received the list from a computer press release. Baker senior Michael
Noer was also named a Thomas J. Watson Fellowship receipient for his proposal to spend a year
traveling and researching the pagan and Christian influences in the creation of Santa Claus. The
Watson Fellowhip is one of the most highly competitive national research fellowships.
Rice received nineteen of the NSF Fellowships, which Glass described as "clearly exceptional,"
considering that the number of NSF Fellowships decreased nationally by 20 this year.
"This certainly puts us in the top five schools in the country,'' he said.
The NSF Fellowship is open to undergraduate seniors and first year graduate students. It is a
three-year fellowship with a stipend of $14,000 plus tuition.
The recipients are:
Zane Ball Jones Electrical Engineering
Howard Chamberlin Hanszen Applied Math
David Scott Crawford Hanszen Mechanical Engineering
Douglas Dawson WRC Earth Science
Carl Friddle Lovett Molecular Biology
Pamela Greene SRC Electrical Engineering
Mary Hipwell Baker Mechanical Engineering
Camilla Kao Hanszen Chemical Engineering
Henry Mahncke Lovett Neuroscience
Kentwell McCormick Lovett Plasma Physics
Jeffrey Oldham Wiess Computer Science
Kathy Russell
Mark Schoenhals
Kyle Self
Mark Swihart
Stephen Weeks
Neal Zondlo
Mario Maria
Lovett Statistics
. Lovett Sociology
Chemical Engineering
.Brown Chemical Engineering
WRC Computer Science
.Hanszen Biochemistry
Brown Metallurgy
Anahi Sonner Chemical Engineering
Mario Macia (Brown) and Anahi Sonner were also selected as Minority Fellows.
from entering without prior permis-
sion from residents, however. Con-
sequently, Jennifer Roth—-the stu-
dent director of the dorm—told
Usher that she would not open the
door for him.
Usher registered his displeasure
with her refusal to admit him to the
dorm by banging on the door in
hopes that another student would
let him in. When Roth become an-
gered and called the campus police,
Usher called her a "cunt" Usher
later said "What I said wasn't a
commendable thing, but it's a natu-
ral thing to respond to the way I was
being treated."
Controversy erupted when his
subsequent suspension was publi-
cized in the student newspaper. One
student reporter wrote "Maybe Tim
should have saved his angry epi-
thets for the crazed social engineers
of residence life. Finally, a student
has dared to cross the line of blind
acceptance to the policies of this
school.... I can certainly identify with
his frustration."
A campus feminist activist felt
that Usher deserved to be punished.
"We aren't talking about what that
word [that Usher used] made her
[Roth] feel like, or what the histori-
cal context of that word is," she ex-
plained. "We're talking about his
right to say whatever the hell he
wants." She believes Occidental
needs more specific policies and
procedures to deal with such "ver-
bal harassment."
Last year, a committee began to
draft a statement of the "principles
of community" in response to na-
tional concern about speech codes
and political correctness. The coun-
cil later decided that it could not
compose such a statement. Student
body president John Willsie said "It
was too restrictive, imposing one
person's values on the rest of the
campus. Until you can get everyone
to agree on what's obscene, I'd rather
err on the side of free speech."
In an interesting subplot, stu-
dents placed a large banner in the
student center "condemning Occi-
dental as a 'fascist haven." Roth and
one of her friends removed the ban-
ner. The same day, the student body
president and another student gov-
ernment official placed another poster
in the same spot It read "Why Was
the Last Sign Pulled Down? Because
Oxy Is a Fascist Haven." It included a
quotation "One man's vulgarity is
another's lyric."
Source: Im Angeles Times
Graduate students in the Depart-
ment of Sociology at the University of
California at Berkeley are boycotting
their classes because the faculty voted
to hire a white Frenchman to teach
race and ethnicity. The graduate stu-
dents claim that the department is
'Until you can get
everyone to agree on
what's obscene, I'd
rather err on the side of
free speech.'
—John Wilisie
trying to hire the Frenchman, Loic
Wacquant, illegally, since his applica-
tion for the position arrived in Berke-
ley past the deadline.
According to faculty members in-
terviewed, Wacquant has published
several articles in prestigious jour-
nals and is completing two disserta-
tions under prominent sociologists
Williamjulius Wilson at the University
of Chicago and Pierre Bourd ieu at the
College de France in Paris.
According to graduate student
propaganda pamphlets, "the position
was founded in 1978 as a Chicano
studies position in response to needs
of...students." Since then, two
Chicano professors have held the
position, neither of whom was given
tenure.
The students, cleverly, posted
quotes around the department offices
which suggest that the "qualifications"
(like prestigious connections) that are
used to make hiring decisions are
arbitrary artifacts of a tradition which
developed in a context that oppressed
non-white, non-males. The quotes are
clever because they come primarily
SEE HEDGES, PAGE 12
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